Ten ways to let him down gently

He is a great guy and you don't want to hurt his feelings but he isn't Mr. Right or even Mr. Right Now... "It's not you, it's me" is officially no longer acceptable. Whether you want to keep your options open or just let him down gently, try the following:

10) "You deserve a girl who is looking for the same things as you are."

9) "I have some health issues I really need to take care of now."

8) "My parents will never allow me to marry a non-Persian."

7) "I don't think I am over my high school boyfriend."

6) "I am joining the Israeli army and won't be back for 2 years."

5) "My yogi advised me to remain abstinent for the next six months."

4) "My attraction to women is something that I cannot ignore any longer."

3) "There are legal entanglements I need to resolve before I get serious with anyone."

2) "I want to set you up with one of my friends. She's an underwear model."

1) "We can still have sex."

Posted by Lori Zaslow with Alana Mayman

5 ways to show you are interested

1) touch him - squeeze his shoulder, stroke his hand, nudge his side

2) take, don't fake, interest in his interests - if you know enough about basketball and he is a huge Knicks fan, text or call when they win to celebrate

3) learn enough about him that you could write his cv or profile page on Facebook

4) when you are with him, pay more attention to him than to your smart phone - twitter, but only at his jokes

5) offer to share your drink, your food - this lets know that the exchange of bodily fluids is possible, or probable

Guest Post by:

Alana Mayman. Alana lives in Manhattan with her two daughters and her husband, on whom she still has a crush after over 14 years together.

Top 10 BIGGEST first date no no's (for Women)

1. Don't be late
2. Don't wear too much makeup (natural is beautiful)
3. Don't swear
4. Don't talk about your Ex-relationships
5. Don't wear something too promiscuous, sexy/classy is always best
6. Don't drink too much (before or during)
7. Don't go home with your date
8. Don't contact your date immediately after (give it till the next day at least)
9. Don't use your phone or PDA while on your date (turn it off)
10. Be part of the conversation but listen as often as you talk